One of the issues that my mother first needed to address was 'who do you trust?' some seniors, as well as adult children, look at their homes as the keeper of fond memories. This creates difficult circumstances to 'let go' of the home. Years ago she and my father assigned me as their POA to address this issue. they knew that I would work with mom compassionately yet realistically. I would listen to her concerns and be reasonable about taking care of her needs. All the jargon in the world wasn't going to change 'Letting go' to 'Right sizing', but working together we were able to reduce the volume from her home to a more manageable size. A Place for Mom helped us identify some companies in the area to help get us packed. Since my brother showed no interest in receiving anything from the house (except the cash from the home sale), most of the content went to donation or moved with mom to the assisted living center.
I involved her in the decisions of where the items would be donated. 'Do you want to donate the children's beds to the orphanage or to the shelter for battered women?' These were choices that let her know how the things she had good memories with, could help and sweeten the lives of people less fortunate than herself. She and my dad had an unbelievable amount of office supplies: notebooks, paper, pens, pencils, boxes of crayons, compasses, rulers, etc. I called the county public schools office and asked if they had a program to provide supplies to kids who were in need. The gal I spoke was delighted. she told me that so much of the time donations come at the beginning of the school year however the kids seem to get forgotten about later in the year. With budget cutbacks, these programs are the first to suffer. kids need supplies throughout the school year so the cases of spiral notebooks and pens were a big plus.
when she finally moved into the senior apartments, she seems to have adjusted quickly, making new friends and getting involved in new activities. She misses the house but is now looking forward again. she is closer to friends and family which she feels are all pluses to a happier life.