How to deal with parent under your own roof: a chronic mega-hoarder w/ undiagnosed mental health issues complicating move?
We can no longer deal with Mom's Behaviors and Choices in our Tiny home; these behavior patterns existed for most of her life, only compounded by age and losses the last several years. We thought we could manage, to allow her more familiarity and latitude for her habits and behaviors, but finally admitted it is beyond our abilities.
We advised Mom we will be seeking other living place for her, and that I would be talking with siblings to let them choose if they wished her to live with them, or near them. 2 claimed they do not want her under their roofs or nearby, unless I cannot find something near here. 2 to still contact. No surety they will stick to their statements, or continue to be helpfully supportive in their communications. All but one live far away.
She headed for her room after that was stated, saying "at least let me get a few things together before you kick me out in the streets!" [Of course we were not doing that!] We assured her she was not being kicked out abruptly; it takes time to find proper place, and time to arrange things. But she has severely ramped up her isolating behaviors for the last couple days since that conversation.
She fears all kinds of things. She locks herself in. She will not want to turn over her keys to allow us to clear out that room and repair damages she has caused related to her hoarding. She has said she fears us. WE fear HER, and FOR her! Both of our health situations are fragile, too. Mom, OTH, can draw on plenty of strength and energy when she turns on her adrenalin.
Constructive suggestions are welcome. Foo3Fighter9 at earthlink.net