A Place for Mom's Family

My mom's dementia is worse on some days than other days. Sometimes she seems completely lucid & totally aware of everything & other days she's " having a bad day" & gets easily confused & frustrated & very nervous & upset. I'm having a very hard time taking care of her. I'm not sure at times what I need to do. Suddenly, I feel like I am the " Parent " & she's the child. Does anyone have any suggestions for me that might be helpful? I'm open to ANY AND ALL SUGGESTIONS AT THIS POINT. Thank you

This is how my husband's dementia began. Finally after 7 years I was able to convince a doctor to run some tests. Since 2 brain scans were normal, they sent him to a psychologist who put him through some verbal tests and determined he had vascular dementia.  This could be caused from a pin head size clot to a vein in the brain and they would never be able to find it.  As for being the parent and your mother the child, that's exactly how it plays out.  I have found meditating helps some with ativan as needed for anxiousness when I feel like I could just explode and say "Why can't you be like you were?"  Of course I don't say that but counting to 10, taking a deep breath, and calmly answering questions is what I have to do. The one person, my son-in-law, who was helping out tremendously has passed away and no other male relative has stepped up to the plate to try and do things with my husband. This last year has become very trying but out of love for my husband and realizing he cannot help what he does, I have become more patient and realized I am his mother in a way.  He counts on me to remind him of everything.  Of course, I don't work so it's easy for me to keep an eye on him.  If I was to work though, I would have to find an adult day care facility for him.

 I hope this helps in some way.

Tips for reducing confusion in people with dementia include:

• Have familiar objects and people around.
• Keep lights on at night.
• Give frequent reminders, notes, lists of routine tasks, or directions for daily activities.
• Stick to a simple activity schedule.

Regular walking with a caregiver or other reliable companion can improve communication skills and prevent wandering.

Calming music may reduce wandering and restlessness, ease anxiety, enhance sleep, and improve behavior.

The person with dementia should have their eyes and ears checked. If problems are found, hearing aids, glasses, or cataract surgery may be needed.

Supervised meals and help with feeding. People with dementia often forget to eat and drink, and can become dehydrated as a result. Talk to the health care provider about the need for extra calories due to increased physical activity from restlessness and wandering.

A person with dementia may need monitoring and help at home or in an institution. Possible options include:

• Adult day care
• Boarding homes
• Convalescent homes
• In-home care

Many organizations are available to help you care for a person with dementia. They include:

• Adult protective services
• Community resources
• Homemakers
• Visiting nurses or aides
• Volunteer services

 

Such a serious problem this is. This is a loss of brain disease. right? so,give your mom completely rest. Don't give her any kind of mentally pressure or disturbance. she will definitely become normal as eartly as god want. Take care of your mom.

- Bladder Stone