My 82-year old father is memory-impaired from anesthesia after 1992 surgery and a 1998 accident that left him with several small brain lesions. His impairment is mostly directional in nature, although he does have some trouble with remembering people also. Recently he has gotten lost twice while driving, missing 4 -
6 hours each time with law enforcement and family out looking for
him. The last time this happened, he entered a major highway from an
exit ramp and drove almost 5 miles into oncoming traffic before trying
to get off the road and colliding with another vehicle in the process
of getting to the shoulder. There were no injuries, but both cars were
totaled. Although the state highway patrolman at the accident scene said Dad's license was "GONE" at
that point, apparently he did not meet the requirements for revocation
because no one was hurt, he was not speeding, and he was not
substance- or alcohol-impaired. The only thing DMV could do was make
him retest to keep his license, and at this point he has aced the written, vision, and road tests. Once some medical paperwork is
complete, apparently he will be allowed to resume driving. Family
members have been in touch with the doctor's office to make sure they are aware of the situation and the medical history leading to it, but the medical professionals are noncommittal in their response. Law enforcment seems to be as frustrated as we are. The car insurance company originally balked at covering the claim, but now the case has been assigned to a new representative who has made the decision to pay. My mother doesn't want to see my father "hurt" and is enabling him to continue down this path by driving him to the DMV for testing, delivering paperwork to the doctor's office, handling all the insurance dealings, and even cancelling his scheduled cognitive testing so that the results could not be used against him.
At this point I am a loss to know what to do, as it looks like Dad will have to kill someone before he will lose his driving privileges. Are there options when police, DMV, medical, and insurance cannot / will not help? All attempts at calm discussion with both parents, separately and together, have been rebuffed. My sister tried as well, and Dad got very mean and nasty with her. Any advice would be appreciated ...thank you in advance!!!