mom has alz 83 yrs old still functional but stays home. No short term memory and still likes to do everything herself and will not let me her daughter do anything its always a struggle to Do laundry, change litters wash dishes. She thinks she does things but doesn't. I try so hard go there everyday, days differ. But most days she says I confuse her. I know she trapped in her mind but so am I. I go with such good intentions but get stopped in my tracks. It creates such anxiety in me. She still knows me and my phone number. Do have people in the evenings just to keep her company and help with meals. Should I not go everyday in the afternoons. I say lets have lunch together and she says she's not hungery and that just because it 12 noon doesn't mean its my lunch time which is true as she gets up late. If I go later she says she ate but doesn't remember what. The guilt and anxiety I have is awful wanting to help and I cannot. Cannot feed the cats, she says she does. Which I feel she forgets. Should I just lay back ! Its hard because she doesn't scoop the litters!! I have to when I can. I have to sneak around just to grab her dirty laundry which I take home!