Tanya---thanks for your response but a lot has changed since my post in June. My sweet Dad (THE best Dad ever---he REALLY was!!) was really declining and we thought it was just the dementia progressing. Long story short, we got him to the emergency room via ambulance on Friday Aug. 3 and on Aug. 4 we found out he had cancer in his kidneys, lungs, pancreas, and liver. He passed away 2 weeks later---Aug. 17. It was the most brutal 2 weeks of my life but there were some blessings---watching him disappear for the last year with the dementia kind of prepared us for losing him completely. And we think he probably had cancer since May and not knowing that was actually okay--the treatment wouldn't have changed because of the aggressiveness of the cancer. But now my poor Mom is LOST. They were married for 67 fun, wonderful years and she misses him so much---they were 17 and 18 when they were married. They did everything together--that generation was kind of like that. I want to move her closer to me to someplace where she could have socialization but for now she doesn't want to move or do anything. She says she's at peace in their home which I understand. But she's so lonely.We talk 3-4 times/day and I go down there 1-2 times/week. We're doing our best. Anyway, thanks for your response.