Hi,
This is my first post. My Mom is 88 years old and has dementia/alzheimer's. She is totally bedridden and needs total care. She doesn't respond verbally but will follow you with her eyes and always pay particular attention to her granddaugher and grandson who are my children. She will often watch me and she enjoys music tremendously. She will not speak but will purposely hold my hand upon request.
This is the situation. She has been in a nursing home for ove10 years since 1998. During this period of time she has received excellent care with few minor incidents that were readily resolved. Now I want to bring her home, each time I visit her she looks at me with eyes that plead to go home. I feel strongly that she does not want to die at the nursing home but wants to be with her family. This thought never leaves my mind. She was placed in the home because in the beginning she would wander, and would become extremely anger and boy she was a strong lady and if she socked you - you felt it for a few days. I couldn't keep her at home because of my own health issues at the time.
Presenlty my husband is retired at age 62 and his health is good, and I have my own full-time business with 3 employees and the business is doing well even in this economic climate. Here is my plan to bring her home and get full-time help maybe a live-in to help me. I plan to semi-retire to devote my time to her and only go into my office a couple of times a week, the business pretty much operates over the internet where my clients place their orders. Plus I have a very compete staff.
I don't want to get a call that my Mom has died and I was not there, I cannot bear the idea that no family is with her and I only see her only twice a month because of the distance she is away from me. Her other children have not inquired about her in over 8 years and never ask me about her or even call to inquire.
My daughter is a music therapist and a psychologist. When I was in college I worked in a nursing home part-time and I did get CNA certified that has been some years ago as I am now 60. My daughter, son, husband has agreed to help me. But I want the best for Mom. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Lebeth