A Place for Mom's Family

Hello!

I am feeling very guilty as my mom from August 08 has been in a pickle.. August  she had a heart attack,  Sept she had a stroke and October she had pneumonia.  The guilt is that I want to do what I can but I am facing an uphill battle.  My mom when she had her stroke left her with aphasia.  She will not give me power of attorney to deal with her affairs, but yet she get on the phone several times a week and tries to talk only to just hang up.  Guilt because I have to pretent I am her when getting her finances in order. Reality is, with her short term memory loss I dont feel she will be back to herself  at all, or it will take an awful long time.  So meantime I am having to deal with stuff pretending I am her.

 I dont really know why she wont give me power of attorney,  all she does is yell NO and shakes her head no,  yet she sees what I have to go through to take care of her stuff.  Me I am bewildered and just dont understand.

Your thoughts are deeply appreciated!!

Mickymar

 You may have tried all of these but I was thinking that a social worker from the hospital, or her doctor's office, or a support group/association for stroke victims and family members  may have answers for you.  Also the Mental Health & Mental Retardation Association may have suggestions for you. Good luck and remember you can only do so much.  

Thank you for your suggestions.  I am working on getting the power of attorney... I told her since I have to write her bills out and she cant sign papers I need the power of attorney, so that is coming into a positive.

As for the help from the mental health and mental retardation assoc.  I have not heard of them and I will contact them.  Thank you so much for your help and encouraging words.

 Hi Mickymar!!!!!!!

 In this type of situation you can consult you with the home care or the care homes services. I think they will help you with more better options. The best is that they might provide your mother a personal care at her own home, which will work more over here.