My brother and his wife invited mom to live with them. She jumped at the chance so they sold her house and moved her 3 weeks ago. She loves it, she got 2 bedrooms, 1 bath and a living room but no kitchen, garage or family room or dining room. She can use the kitchen but never did like cooking so just eats with my brother and his wife.
It seems odd to me but we are making it work. My nephew and I went to play cards with her but it is almost like we are visiting my brother and his wife too.
My nephew is my brother's son so thinks nothing of helping himself to pop and my sister in law gave us candy. When mom had her own house she often made us food and had candy and pop and we would bring things to share. I took us to lunch I invited my brother and his wife but they were busy, she was making a quilt and he was working in a home business.
I don't know what to do about Christmas now. The last few years I was taking everything to mom's house and playing hostess for her, making myself at home for hours before the others got there. I would set up the food in the family room then we visited in the living room but now she doesn't have a family room or dining room. I don't want to impose on my brother since they do Christmas Day and will have a house full.
My nephew and I have been playing cards with mom most weekend the last few years and last year we start Christmas Eve early with cards so mom isn't stressed with the holidays.
I don't want to do Christmas eve at my house, I am think my nephew and I go early and only take a minimum amount of food and snacks instead of 3-4 kinds of meats, cheese, dips, chips and punch just have a few dishes of candy and one or two snacks that aren't messy and canned pop to drink. Then we can just use the little kitchen table for the food. We will only have about 11 people at the most and 4 might not come since they only do every other year but they might come.
My brother and his wife are the nicest people and wouldn't ever say we were imposing but the feeling is wrong for me.