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  • 02-18-2008 1:52 PM

    Caring for a loved one with Dementia

    The challenges of living with, or caring for a person with dementia can be immense. The Alzheimer Association estimates that 4.5 million Americans have Alzheimer’s disease, a number that is likely to swell to 16 million by 2050. The disease process is progressive, and eventually impacts all areas of function: memory, thinking, problem solving, sensory, physical function, movement, emotions and behavior. But, the spirit of the person remains. The art of caregiving is being able to manage the changes through the stages of the disease, while nurturing and preserving the spirit of the person suffering from the disease.  While caregiving is indeed an art, there are specific skills and techniques caregivers can use to support the person with dementia.

     

    The overall goal is to provide person-centered care, as recommended by the Alzheimer’s Association. The first step in caring for the person with dementia involves understanding the changes the person is experiencing. In essence, it is helpful for caregivers to see the world from the eyes of the person with dementia.

     

    Above all else, it is important to focus on what a person can do in the various stages of dementia, and what the person needs from the caregiver to function at his or her best.

     

    Listed below is a list of helpful skills caregivers can use to improve the quality of life for a loved one:

     

    Presentation or Approach. This refers to the way in which a caregiver approaches a person. Approach at eye level, in a calm manner, and slightly from the side. Allow time for the person to respond. The caregiver should make certain the person knows you are present, before doing anything else.

     

    Simplification. Break tasks down into simpler steps, communicate in simpler phrases, and simplify choices.

     

    Provide Routine and Consistency. Create a daily schedule that is predictable, and appropriately filled with activity to help the person with dementia be engaged, but not over-stimulated. Try to match the person’s prior routines to the usual daily schedule.

     

    Provide Cues. Cues are prompts that serve to encourage a memory or prompt a person to start, continue and finish an activity. Cues can be visual, such as pictures. Other types of cues could be the use of sound, or aromas such as baking bread to cue mealtimes.

     Mirroring. This is a type of prompt that depends upon the caregiver to demonstrate a motion or action as a way to encourage the person with dementia to start, continue or finish a task.   

    Hand over Hand Assist. This technique requires the caregiver to place a hand over the hand of the person with dementia, and guide him or her to begin an activity such as picking up a spoon.

     

    The interactions caregivers have with their loved ones with dementia are critical to maintaining a positive lifestyle for your loved one. The following are types of interactions that can be helpful:

     

    Evoke a Positive Emotion. The goal is to avoid arguments and power struggles, and instead, focus on conversations and activities that bring out positive, comfortable, and safe feelings in the person with dementia.

     

    The 3 “R’s”: Reassure, Redirect and Re-approach. To reassure means to discern what the person is concerned about, and communicate that you understand him or her. Redirection is an approach that is used to distract a person to think about or do another activity. Re-approach is used when a person is not interested in performing an activity. The caregiver simply stops encouraging the person to engage in the activity, and

    re-approaches at a later time.

     

    Validation. This is a technique that encourages caregivers to see the world from the eyes of the person with dementia. The caregiver acknowledges, or validates, the world as the person with dementia is experiencing it. For example, if the person with dementia thinks it is 20 years earlier, then the caregiver agrees, and encourages activities and conversation around what the person was doing 20 years ago.

     

    Use of Procedural Memories, Past Interests and Hobbies. Procedural memories refer to those habits, behaviors, personal interests, or past work and hobbies that a person has done over and over again in their lifetime. These “over-learned” skills are usually activities that generate a sense of success and accomplishment. For example, sanding a block of wood is an over-learned skill for a furniture maker. Feeding one’s self is also an over-learned skill, and one that a person can participate in well into the advanced stages of the disease.

     

    Creating a Supportive Environment. Some of the key elements in a supportive environment include providing proper security when needed and the appropriate use of light and color. It is helpful to focus on what is important for the person to see, then ensuring there is adequate contrast of that item against a background (like a chair contrasting with the floor and wall). Reduction or elimination of background noise is highly recommended. Selection of non-busy, simple fabrics, window and floor treatments and wall hangings is also recommended. The availability of uncluttered wandering paths is encouraged.

     

    Maggie Champagne Kramer
  • 02-27-2008 4:51 PM In reply to

    Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

    Great information: here is another tool complete with a check off list to assist you with caregiving for your loved one.

    Call for a free guide at:

    1-800-445-8106

    Family Caregive Alliance

     

    or

    Children of AGING Parents

    1-800-227-7294

     

    Belinda Battistelli

    A Place For Mom

    belindab@aplaceformom.com

    Belinda Battistelli
    Eldercare Advisor
    A Place For Mom
  • 04-25-2008 8:36 AM In reply to

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    This was very good, Maggie. Thanks,

    Paul J. Hamilton
    A Place for Mom
    866-355-9427
    paulh@aplaceformom.com
  • 08-12-2008 1:54 PM In reply to

    Crying [:'(] Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

     

  • 08-16-2008 5:33 PM In reply to

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    Maggie, this was very good information. Thank you  Elizabeth

  • 10-15-2008 1:18 PM In reply to

    • spencer
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    Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

     Thank you so much Maggie for your informative post.  I will print it out and use it as a reference guide.  I've learned pretty much the hard way what not to do with my parents who have dementia, and some positive approaches that do work.  We want to be able to make them as happy as possible.  

    Positive thinking is the way to go. It can change the way we feel and how we react to life's challenges. :D
  • 10-15-2008 1:52 PM In reply to

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    Hi Spencer!

    I'm so glad that you found the information helpful.   Your parent's are so fortunate to have your support.  Everything you are doing enhances the quality of their lives tenfold.  

    Take care,

    Maggie  

     

    Maggie Champagne Kramer
  • 11-29-2008 7:58 PM In reply to

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    Maggie,

    I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this information.As a person that is new to all of this and willing to learn all that he can concerning this heart wrenching situation.I look forward to seeing much more information such as this.

    God Bless You,  Michigan Moose

  • 01-04-2009 2:46 AM In reply to

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    Thank you ,Maggie, for your helpful information. I am quite new at this and can use all the helpful ideas you recommend. I especially like the three R's. I look forward to many more suggestions and insights to help me deal with this terrible challenging disease.   SharonD

  • 01-05-2009 8:51 AM In reply to

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    Hello Michigan Moose!

    I just wanted to say hello and wish you all the best in the New Year.  I also wanted to suggest that you contact your local Alzheimer's Association office for more information about the programs and support groups they have for family members.  The information I shared is typical of the practical advice provided by this excellent resource.  

    Warm regards,

    Maggie  

     

     

    Maggie Champagne Kramer
  • 01-05-2009 9:21 AM In reply to

    Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

    Hello Sharon,

    I am so glad that you found the A Place for Mom's Family Online Community and I hope that you will stay in touch.  It's great to have someplace to go where you can talk to people who really know what you are going through.  You will find many good hearted people on this site contributing lessons they have learned from their own life experience, as well as information from the Alzheimer's Association and other excellent resources for families who have a loved one with this disease.

    I hope you will come back often!

    Maggie 

    Maggie Champagne Kramer
  • 01-21-2009 10:54 PM In reply to

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    Maggie,

    This is great information. Our family has successfully used many of these approaches over the past 8 years caring for my mother-in-law with Alzheimer's.

    Rich

     

    Find Elderly Home Care tips at http://www.caregiver-support.com
  • 12-23-2009 2:16 PM In reply to

    • BenV
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    Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

    Lots of great ideas here; great post.

    For some additional resources on caring for a loved one with dementia, I'd suggest checking out APFM's senior care articles: http://www.aplaceformom.com/senior-care-resources/articles/

  • 02-15-2010 8:19 PM In reply to

    • Jinx
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    Re: Caring for a loved one with Dementia

    Hi, I just wanted to say that I am caring for my parents who are elderly.  My mother has Alzheimer's and Dementia, and my father is in pretty good health. He is still able to care for himself, although I pretty much take care of their everyday life. I do all the shopping, cooking, handle their finances, and basically take care of them. I work a full time job, and I have a home and a husband also.  I have hired an agency who provides caregivers for my parents.  Although they are there about 14 hours a day, I still worry about my parents and the care that they are getting.  My mother has alot of her memory skills yet, it's just that she is unable to walk or take care of herself.  All of her needs are performed by the caregivers, such as eating, bathing, dressing, and basically her daily functions. 

    Last May my moher was in a care facility for 6 weeks, and all she wanted to do was come home, so, I did everything possible to make that happen.  I have several times asked my father to move into an assisted living facility to make it easier on everyone, especially himself in regards to the fiancial burden of having caregivers, but, he wants to remain in his home.  I at times find it extremely diffcult to try to stay calm and focused because honestly, there are time that I am completely exhausted.  It seems that taking care of them is a full time job also, along with everything else, and also, I have even started to handle their medical insurance claims. 

    I want to be able to know that I am doing everything for my mother and that she is getting the best care possible.  I want her be happy and to have everything she needs, but it is hard because although some of her basic functions she can't perform, she still gets upset and cries over that fact.  I am sure for her that is is frustrating not be able to do for herself and to have someone take care of her.  I know that  I do not fully comprehend all that she is going through, but I want to make sure that I am doing everything possible for her so that she can have a full and rewarding life.  I want to know that she is on the right medicines, and that we are doing everything to slow down this dreadful disease. 

    Thanks Jinx 

     

     

     

    Jinx
  • 02-17-2010 8:38 AM In reply to

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    Hello Jinx,

    Your parent's are very fortunate to have such a loving and involved daughter looking out for them.  I'm sure that having you near has always been a great comfort to them too, but the question that begs to be asked is "how are you holding up?"

    I find the most difficult challenge for families who are caring for a loved one with Dementia or Alzheimer's (AZ) is accepting the fact that no matter how hard you try, at some point you can't change the course of the disease, or the toll it is taking on your mother.

    It's complicated, and everyone is different, so there is no "one size fits all" guide to how Dementia or AZ will affect the brain, but there are clear indicators that eventualy present at different stages of the disease.  It depends on which part of the brain comes "under siege" at any given time too.  I can't tell you how many times I've been told by family members that "Dad has forgotten how to zip his pants."   I don't know why this occurs, but it does and it seems to be a hallmark of the disease. The only thing to be done at this point is to adapt his environment to his capabilities, ie. by removing zippers from his pants and replacing them with Velcro now.

    I know this is hard Jinx, so I give you a lot of credit for being so devoted to helping your mother. I probably don't even need to mention this either, but I hope that you've learned to throw perfectionism out the window by now too.  Try making "I am doing the best I can" or  "that's good enough for now" your new Mantra. You need to just give yourself a break - and soon!  

    Adapting your expectations to your mother's capabilites will help both of you cope better when you see changes happening too.  Be prepared for more things to begin to frustrate your mother, and when they do, try to accept them and focus instead on helping her learn to adapt as best you can.  Knowlege is a powerful tool as well, so give yourself time to attend support groups where, as on this site, you'll learn things from others that can help you "stay ahead of the curve" so to speak, and also provide you with the support of others who know the road you are on so well.

    Please consider some well deserved respite for yourself  Jinx.  Try turning over a few of the tasks that you are presently handling for your parents to someone else.  After all, if you don't take care of yourself, how are you going to continue to take care of your parents?  

    God Bless you Jinx and I'm thinking about you!

    Maggie  

    Maggie Champagne Kramer
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