Admin: A Place For Ruth Ruth Kimmerer greeted late middle age by traveling the globe. Not satisfied with simply seeing the sites, the spirited woman would devise a mission to her travels. Once, she even smuggled birth control devices behind the Iron Curtain into Romania. “My mother-in-law loved to learn languages, so traveling offered a natural extension,” Judy Kimmerer remembers. “She spoke seven languages fluently at one point.” Described as “fiercely independent,” Ruth raised four children while working as an administrative assistant for the Department of Pharmacology at the University of Rochester (her husband died when her eldest child was 15). But as Ruth aged, it became clear to her children, who had all left Rochester for points west, that her living situation required change. Her doctor cited early onset Alzheimer’s as the reason Ruth should relocate closer to one of her children. Her son Rob (Judy’s husband) was the natural choice.
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This story is much like the one my mother is currently living. When my father died at the age of 69 my mother lived by herself for two years. We noticed that she kept falling alot and that her diet had become mostly pies and candy. Since the neighborhood that I had grown up in was becoming very transitional and in fact dangerous we decided to move Mom to live in a mother-in-law suite we built onto our house. We had seven good years before Mom started having problems. At first I noticed that she was continually having to have help with working her remote control for the TV and the microwave. She refused to learn how to use the dishwasher.
She had always been very active in the church and had started a Tuesday morning ladies meeting. All of a sudden Mom decided she did not want to go to church or participate in the acitvities that she had always enjoyed. After talking to her I found out that she could not remember the names of her friends and how to pray as she always had. Mom had a bad fall while I was traveling on business so when I returned I decided we needed to have her checked out.
One of the saddest days of my life was when the doctor called me in to discuss Mom's test results. This is the day I was informed she had Alzheimer's and was probably in the first to middle stage. In my mind, I had suspected this in my heart I had denied it. The phone calls from her friends talking about her strange behavior suddenly became clear. It was time to make a decision about Mom. We could no longer leave her alone and since I could not quit working we found an assisted living facility for her.
For two years the assisted living worked well, now I am currently having to move Mom again. This time to a memory care unit that has levels 2 & 3 care available. The issue is money. I have learned so much about what is available and what it costs. All assisted living in Georgia is private pay and very expensive. My brother and I figure we have enough savings for 4 to 5 more years and after that we hope and pray that Mom does not outlive her funds.
I know that many would think this is a horrible thought but if you have witnessed this disease with your loved one, then you understand.
Elaine - Katie's daughter