A Place for Mom's Family

I know many of you have probably seen this before. I think it is good as a caregiver to review from time to time, as being the caregiver can be such a challenge at times.

I have the right… to take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness. It will give me the capability of taking better care of my relative.

I have the right… to seek help from others even though my relatives may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.

I have the right… to maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy. I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things just for myself.

I have the right… to get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.

I have the right… to reject any attempts by my relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through guilt and/or depression.

I have the right… to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance from my loved one for what I do, for as long as I offer these qualities in return.

I have the right… to take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.

I have the right… to protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.

I have the right… to expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired persons in our country, similar strides will be made towards aiding and supporting caregivers.

Linda, this is something I will share with my siblings as we, especially my older sis who lives nearby are caring for our elderly mother right now.  Thanks!

Thanks for this reminder Linda,  This is something I will share will families often.

The Caregiver's Bill of Rights

© by Jo Horne, Author of CareGiving: Helping an Aging Loved One

 Adapted from the book, CareGiving: Helping an Aging Loved One, published in 1985 by the American Association of Retired Persons.