Here's my problem : my mother was living on her own in Florida for the last 14 yrs, I live in Boston. She is 74 and her mind is fine. She recently fell and wasn't found for a day or so and ended up in the hospital. After a few weeks in the hospital she was sent to a assisted living faculty. The place is "ok" and the people seem nice, but there are some issues with the place. I visited my mom for 1st time this week and it is very obvious she has skin cancer on her nose ( I'm not a dr, but it's clearly skin cancer, or a flesh eating bacteria) it very much bothers me that these 'nice caregivers' haven't done anything. If blood was gushing from her head I would hope they'd call a dr. But nothing has been done about the skin cancer. Also, there are not activies in this facility. It's a house someone turned into an assisted living facility. It seems like a place to wait to die in. She has extreme difficulty getting around but she can walk.
I want to move her to my house, but I have no clue if this is the right thing to do. I can afford some in home health care, but not 24x7. Also, it's just me and I have to work. So she will be by herself for most of the day. Currently she shares a small one bed room with another patient at the assisted living facility in fla
I would consider assisted living but not sure I can afford it. She gets $1000 per month in soc sec, and I can maybe pay $500-$1000 - I'm not sure what the cost will be, but heard its $3k per Month.
At my house she will obviously have her own room and the bathroom is on the same floor.
I'm not sure of I'm doing the right thing. She doesn't want to leave, but I can't trust her judgment ( she has skin can on her nose, you can't miss it , and she hasn't been to the doctor to get it corrected ) I also wonder if she has just given up and wants to die !?!?
Any thoughts, suggestions!?!?
Thanks in advance