Keep trying Adult Protective Services, go to their office if you need to! I think this is your first move as the situation sounds volatile and out of control. I have copied and pasted here what my local APS offers:
Protective Services (APS) staff investigates reports of abuse, neglect,
including self-neglect, or financial exploitation of at-risk adults who are
unable to protect themselves due to a physical or mental limitation. APS staff
assesses the need for protective services and provide services to reduce the
identified risk to the adult. These services may include case coordination,
short-term case management, guardianship or representative payee, and
information and referral.
Adults who may receive Protective Services are defined in the state law as:
"At-risk Adult" means a person eighteen (18) years of age or older who because
of mental or physical dysfunction, or advanced age, is unable to manage such
person's own resources, carry out the activities of daily living, or protect
such person from neglect, hazardous or abusive situations without assistance
from others and who has no available, willing, and responsibly able person for
assistance and who may be in need of protective services.
Allegations that APS will Investigate
Physical abuse is intentional infliction of injury or physical mistreatment,
including: slapping, pinching, choking, kicking, shoving, inappropriate use of
drugs or physical restraints.
Sexual abuse is any non-consensual sexual contact.
includes: unwanted touching, rape, sodomy, coerced nudity, sexually explicit
Note: Any sexual contact between a facility staff person
such as a nursing home, adult family home, boarding home, or supportive living
and a vulnerable adult is considered nonconsensual.
Mental or emotional abuse is the intentional action or inaction of mental or
Mental abuse includes: intimidation, coercion, ridicule,
harassment; treating an adult like a child; isolating an adult from family,
friends, or regular activity; use of silence to control behavior; yelling or
swearing resulting in mental distress.
Neglect or Self-Neglect
Neglect or self-neglect means that, through action or inaction, by themselves
or someone else, a vulnerable adult is deprived of care needed to maintain
physical or mental health. This does not include a competent person who decides
to live in a way that may threaten their safety or well-being.
or self-neglect includes: untreated or improperly attended medical conditions,
poor personal hygiene; unsafe living conditions, such as no heat; unsanitary
living quarters, such as no toilet; lack of appropriate clothing; lack of
necessary medical aids; failure to take medications as prescribed.
Exploitation or Financial Exploitation
Exploitation is exerting undue influence or forcing a vulnerable adult to
perform services for the benefit of others. Financial exploitation is the
illegal or improper use of the property, resources or income of a vulnerable
adult for another person’s profit or gain.
Examples of exploitation
include: An adult relative living in the home of a vulnerable adult without
contributing to the household. An unexplained sudden transfer of assets to a
family member or someone outside the family.
Abandonment is leaving a vulnerable adult without the ability to get
necessary food, clothing, shelter, or health care. An example of abandonment
includes a caregiver deserts the individual in a public place or in their own
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