My only concern is if you mother or father doesn't want to move to a nursing home then why not obey them. Let them stay in you and hire someone to attent to their needs. Life can be complicated at times but it is our decision still that make things more complicated.I'm so sorry but I guess when my parents don't wanna be a care home I would gladly take good care of them. Older people might be so sensitive. Just imagine the fact that when you were still a baby they took care of you, now that they're old, it's your turn to do the same with them. [:'(] Time to care for them. It's hard to be far away from your family.